We’re living in our head. Acting, and feeling, not according to what things really are, but how we perceive them. The world we see is an outward projection of the thoughts and feelings going on in our head. Just like how a movie shows up on a screen; we are projecting the world we see. We maintain certain mental images of ourselves, the world, the people around us, and behave in response to the way we see the world, rather than what the world really is. If we have internalized ideas around fear, stress, or failure, we are going to see a world composed of such things, instead of one filled with hope, success or opportunity. 

The brain and nervous system that automatically react to the environment are the same brain and nervous system that tell us what the environment is. Constant feelings revolving around negativity can never serve us because they will only manifest a world of negativity. It’s never going to be a simple process to change your outlook, but a good way to think about it is; what you appreciate, appreciates. If your perspective is continuously from a victim standpoint — oh why me — then the “movie” you are projecting will “cast” your role accordingly. Alternatively, if you project a positive mindset — I’m grateful for this because… — then doors will open.