We’ve all been hurt, but don’t let it dictate your life. The thing with pain is, you’re suppose to get over it. Say you have surgery, most likely you’ll encounter a bit of pain temporarily, but no one says they’re still in pain 20 years later, because if you were, the surgeon has done a pretty awful job. 

We all experience different degrees of pain; we get rejected, fired, turned down, and heartbroken, but like surgery the pain is meant to be temporary. Our mind, just like our body can be incredibly resilient if empowered to do so. Although, in a lot of cases some past painful events still manifest a reality that causes us to suffer. Causing us to say things like, “I shouldn’t apply for that job because I was rejected last time,” or “I’m scared to love someone because I might get hurt again.” 

The problem is that some of us like to frame everything as a tragedy, thinking that going through something that again would be so unbearable that you shrink the quality of your life. By doing so, the brain start to believe what you’re telling it. Your conscious insistence, leads to subconscious programming. Now your mind and body are so programed to stay away from the things that may help us grow as individuals out of fear of rejection, that we no longer have any inclination to even try something out of our comfort zone. So we remain stuck, because we are too afraid of what might be, so we just accept what is, even if it isn’t providing a more fulfilling life, at least it isn’t making your reality worse. That’s no way to walk through life. Doing so only allows us to live within a very limited spectrum of possibility.

There is wisdom in the saying, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger,” but only if you allow it. Rejection, failure, and heartbreak can be the best thing that ever happens to you, but no one looks at it like that.