In an effort to make the “right” decision, it takes a strong person to deny themselves what they truly want in their heart, especially if that choice can provide them with an experience they’ve been searching for. There are always going to be circumstances that dictate those choices. We are constantly weighing one outcome to another, balancing the logical wants of the brain to the emotional needs of the heart. It’s always going to be hard to know how to make the correct decision without the benefit of hindsight. These instances happen to each of us throughout our lives, and dictate which direction we take when we come to that fork in the road. Pausing before we make that choice, we look down either direction, finding faults with either decision. There will always be fear on both sides of the equation. WE fear the risk of pursuing what we truly want, and at the same time we’re scared to leave the comfort of knowing what to expect if we stay our current course. Some people choose to say, others choose to explore the new path. There isn’t a right answer, but I think discovering the person you could be, at the expense of the comfort you feel by staying where you are, will always be a better option. The thoughts of leaving the current path are the cracks that allow the light to shine in, and light the way to become the person you want to be or build the life you want to have. Lean into it.

Walking a path of comfort is only beneficial, in as much as it allows you the safety to dream of more. Staying on that path, knowing you want something different, something more, something better will only serve as a detriment to a life you could be living. There is a risk in everything. There is as much risk in staying your current course, as there is in choosing the new path. But in choosing the new path, you are able to grow in the sense that you can find out if that is the life you want. More often than not, even if you fail or it isn’t what you thought it would be, lift goes on, and you will gain something from it. A small piece of the puzzle. A small step towards being the person you want to be. Without the risk there is no growth. Lean into in. 

We are all so fucking afraid to be different when that is the whole point of living. To grow. To change. To transform into an ever better version of ourselves. It’s a process though. Each step, or misstep, is a conscious choice we have to make. I believe that no matter what you do, every decision you make was the “right” one at the time. Whether the outcome was good or bad, it provided insight. You came to that fork in the road, weighed the options, and decided. That decision of whether it was to stay comfortable or embrace fear needed to happen for you to be the next version of yourself. It makes you, You. Mistakes make us who we are just as much as the successes. Unfortunately, experience is the worst teacher, as it gives the test before presenting the lesson. But that shouldn’t keep us from trying. To grow, to build, to fail, and to succeed you need to go where you haven’t been before. Nothing food comes easy. Lean into it.

If you come to that fork in the road, then you’ve already dreamed of something better. Live your life knowing that whatever you choose isn’t wrong, its simply part of your story. But at the same time playing it safe by denying what the heart wants is never going to lead to a full expression of who you could be. Lean into it.