268. “made me feel”
We frequently use the words “made me feel.” We’ll say something like; this person made me feel bad because of what they said.
We use these words for their ease. They require no introspection of their use. We believe we’re just a simple bystander to the events that happen to us. Saying “made me feel” absolves us from the responsibility of having to understand where spontaneous feelings are coming from. But the thing is, no one outside of ourselves has the power to make us feel a certain way. The feelings of anger, frustration, anxiety, sadness, and even love are all coming from within you. Whatever triggers their response is what we need to call attention to, sit with, and explore.
In other words, the input doesn’t determine the output. Our response to what someone says or does to us, is our response. No one can insert a feeling within us. The sooner we realize this, the sooner we can stop making the mistake that other people can exert some level of control over how we feel or operate in our daily lives, and take the responsibility to create the interactions we want.
172. you’re in control
The good news is you’re in control, the bad news is… you’re in control. Your thoughts, perceptions, and intentions are a choice that have the power to color the outcome of whatever situation you find yourself in. If you’re fearful and conditioned with a victim mindset, you will be much more likely to find negativity in your life. Whereas, if you’re grateful, open and willing to learn from all the experiences you encounter, you will be much more likely to come across things that provide positive sensations.
It’s a feedback mechanism; what you put out, is what you’re going to get back. Think of it as what you appreciate, appreciates. Seeing your life through a negative lens will never serve to better your situation as it will only attract things to reinforce that view. On the other hand, accepting what comes along with gratitude, will bring more things you can be grateful for.
As you progress through this life, it is important to understand that we are in control. We hold the power to create the life we want. Shifting the perspective away from what is happening to you, and instead, to what is happening for you can make all the difference in the world.