38 laws to live by
If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.
Only deal with people that love you back.
Perfect isn’t possible. Excellence is. Chop wood, carry water.
Always be grateful.
Ignore the rules you don’t agree with.
The best way to predict the future is to create it yourself.
If you think it’s impossible, then it is.
Ideas are nothing without action.
The things that matter the most should never be at the mercy of the things that matter the least.
The time is now, not tomorrow.
It’s not what you know, it’s what you consistently do.
Take what is useful, disregard the rest.
Life is happening for us, not to us.
Let learning lead to action.
Sometimes the process is more important than the product.
The limits of my language equal the limits of my world.
Losers have goals. Winners have systems.
Frustration is a matter of expectation.
Life favors the specific ask and punish the league wish.
Finding purpose is greater than searching for happiness.
Discipline equals freedom.
When you say “Yes” to something, you are saying “No” to something else.
Total honesty at all times.
Your choice creates your challenge.
Nothing quells anxiety more than action.
Make choices as the person you want to be would make.
Strength has no detriment.
Productive is different than busy.
It’s not what happens to you, but how you react that matters.
Have integrity. Practice what you preach.
You never get today back.
An addiction to distraction is the end of creative production.
The caliber of your practice determines the quality of your performance.
Take ownership.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.
Vulnerability is the price the brave must pay to arrive at iconic.
Always love like it’s the last time.
Real love has no judgement.
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We often mistake attachment for love. Much of the time, our sense of self is not rooted in what we see in the mirror or feel inside, instead it’s the illusion that another person can fill a void and make us whole. So, in the event that they leave, or the relationship ends, the ensuing heartbreak feels like devastation because we not only lost someone we cared about, we lost a part of what allowed us to show up in the world. But the thing is, if we lose ourselves in the process of losing another, it’s likely not love that is causing the pain, but attachment to the other.
The grasping and clinging we go through as the relationship starts to crumble is thought to be a representation of the depth of love we feel for another, when in reality, it’s just an attachment to the idea of them. And, the more we reach out and try to hold on to that idea, the more afraid we become in losing this person, which inevitably causes more suffering in the end.
Ultimately, we need to understand where our feelings come from. Attachment will always feel exponentially worse because when a person leaves, they take a piece of us with them; whereas, if it’s real love, it’s still going to hurt, but that pain is going to come from the loss of something beautifully shared, not a loss of a sense of self. So, if you really love someone, and they choose to leave, you will honor their choice because real love does not judge.
goals suck…
When I first meet people, they tend to comment on how disciplined I must be to make time for the gym everyday or be able to stick with a certain diet, but I am here to tell you it has nothing to do with discipline. It comes down to loving what you do. Most people talk about goal setting, but I call bullshit. You don’t need better goals, you need a better system.
We set goals to be someone we’re not, when we should really be setting up systems to become the person we desire. If you want to lose weight, I’m sure you don’t want to gain it back, but that is exactly what happens the majority of the time. WHY? Because you do not love what you’re doing. For example, you set a goal to lose 20lbs, and in the process you sweat and sacrifice everything the larger version of yourself enjoyed to achieve your goal weight, but after a while the weight starts to add up again. Next thing you know, you’re right where you started again. WHY? Because you hated what you had to do to get there.
Goals suck!
Goals are only beneficial for setting an end point of the person you wish to become, and not some arbitrary number. The better choice is to establish a system that allows you to become that 20lbs lighter version of yourself.
WTF does that mean?
Think of is as a GPS. Let your goal become your destination — to lose 20lbs. Allow the system to take you there — thinking, acting, create habits as that 20lbs lighter version of yourself would — so that when you arrive, you are a new person, not one who airdropped in (through sacrifice) and has no idea how to navigate this new lifestyle.
Becoming a new version of yourself, be it weight loss or muscle gain, isn’t about discipline, it's about thinking like that new version of yourself would, and implementing the necessary changes overtime to get there. These necessary changes produce positive results, and reinforce the behavior. Yes, there is a chance it may take slightly longer to lose those 20lbs, but because you are creating new habits, you are much more likely to keep them, and less likely to fall back into old habits.
So when faced with a decision, always ask how your future self would act.