333. labels
We use labels for different ideas. Most times, we take for granted that the way we see things is how they actually are. It’s actually quite difficult not to do this as we are at the very center of our own universe, but the reality is this only leads to more misunderstandings than anything because one person’s interpretation likely doesn’t match another’s.
It might sound like we’re having the same conversation because we’re using the same label, but what we mean is completely different. For example, someone can be talking about Christianity in terms of squashing other people’s viewpoints, while another uses it as a way to speak about how you should be accepting and nice to your neighbor. Or, someone can be talking about a Paleo diet in terms of it being unrealistic in terms of a way to garner sustenance, while another uses it as a template to consume whole, unprocessed foods. The examples are endless because each of us views the world through a slightly different lens, therefore clarification is important.
The point is to seek to understand before continuing the discussion. Chances are a little exploration of someone’s label can provide a great deal of clarity, leading to a more productive conversation.
216. labels
Instead of rising to difficult situations, we often fall to the labels we apply to ourselves. For instance, we’ll say “I’m an introvert,” to justify our lack of openness or willingness to try new things. We avoid new experiences, conflict, and anything that runs contradictory to that label, ultimately boxing ourselves into a particular narrative. This only stunts our ability to grow, with every challenging interaction serving as a way to reinforce the idea we have about ourselves. So, if we are going to use labels to identify ourselves, we have to be careful to choose ones that open us up, instead of keeping us closed off.