Ryan Crossfield

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vulnerability is necessary for change

A client of mine, while happy with his progress, was having trouble accepting how certain things weren’t as they used to be. It’s inevitable that we’ll miss certain parts of our past selves as we move away who we were, but we have to let go of the things that do not serve the person we want to become. A large part of that is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. I sent him the following, hopefully if you’re having trouble in your journey it can help you too…

“You’ll be a different person in a year from now, but in order to get there, you have to go through the process of transformation, in both body and mind. There’s that period of time where the caterpillar goes into the cocoon and is most vulnerable, in doing so, it comes out on the other side a new “person.” A certain part of the process is delaying gratification, another part is finding patience and learning to love the journey of who you can be. It’s a scary process because it’s a divergence from everything you have ever known. However, in order to grow, it’s going to require you to accept the vulnerability of change — just as the caterpillar accepts going into the cocoon — so you can allow yourself the opportunity to come out a different person on the other side.”