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147. any road will get you there

If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there. It’s not going to be the most efficient way to accomplish anything specific, but just because you aren’t sure where you’re going doesn’t necessarily mean you’re lost. It’s something most people don’t like to admit, that most of us don’t know what we want. Somehow to be seen as “going somewhere” you need to have a definitive plan mapped out. Yet, part of life is figuring it out as you go. Research shows that only 6% of people work in the profession they aspired to when they were young, and a third of people end up in a career that has nothing to do with what they studied in college.

it’s not a bad thing to not always know where you’re going. Nor should you be ashamed to be lost at times. Life is about experience. It’s about discovering the parts you like, disregarding what you don’t, and creating yourself as you go. As long as the direction you’re traveling serves a purpose, by satisfying curiosities, mending past traumas, and improving your quality of life, what more can you really ask for?

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Fit for someone else's world

When you popped out, you were unique. Not too long after the world was telling you that you needed to fit in, to live life a certain way, and then it started giving you instructions.

You were taught to be a replaceable cog in a giant machine. You were taught to consume as a shortcut to happiness. You were taught to accept the marketing pitch as a path toward greater health. And you were taught to be conform, even if it went against your inner narrative.

You chose a school to grant you the best access to this world. On the placard mounted near the entrance of your University, it read: “WE TRAIN THE FACTORY WORKERS OF TOMORROW WE TEACH THE POWER OF CONSUMPTION AS AN AID FOR SOCIAL APPROVAL. AND OUR GRADUATES ARE VERY GOOD AT FOLLOWING INSTRUCTIONS IN PROMOTION OF THE STATUS QUO.”

You passed on the school that promised: “To teach people to take responsibility and the initiative to become remarkably artistic individuals, to question the status quo, to interact with transparency, to innovate toward a world they desire, and to develop a life built upon the fulfillment of both body and mind. alike.”

You did exactly what the world told you to do. You gave up on the responsibility of creating a life you wanted, and instead took the path of least resistance, worn with hubris and promise, to arrive at the same place you started. Wondering when you can start the life you really want.

It is easier to follow the worn path than to make your own. Taking the path of least resistance absolves you from the personal responsibility of creating your own journey. Just don’t be surprised that, when you arrive at the destination of someone else’s map, you find what someone else was looking for.

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