198. emotion vs feeling

We confuse the terms “emotion” and “feeling,” often using them interchangeably without realizing that we don’t run because we’re scared, we’re scared because we run. It’s the reaction to a stimulus that stirs our need for the meaning. 

It’s our emotions that come first. They are the physiological response to a situation — fight, flight, freeze, or sexual arousal. Next comes the rush of feeling — fear, anger, love, happiness — that allows us to make sense of the situation by filling in the void created by the stimulus. It’s the cause and effect that constructs our narrative.

The funny thing is that the emotions that come from being caught in an earthquake can produce the same chemical reactions as sexual arousal. And, while our description of the events can be similarly described by exclaiming, “the earth moved,” they mean completely different things contextually. Perhaps, that’s why risky behavior can be fun. Walking the line can stir emotions that make us feel more alive, producing feelings that are integral for our story.